Independence And Compromise
Monday, 07 December 2009 09:59 | 
Written by Astrid Engels |
I'm a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person's life as well.
I'm a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person's life as well.
That compromise includes consulting your partner about decisions that will affect him or her. This in no way makes you weak or co-dependent. Discussing things with your partner before making a decision is just the smart thing to do.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Granted, a woman's body is her own, but there are two of you in this relationship, so the decisions you make about your body will affect your partner too. Starting or stopping birth control or choosing a permanent solution like having your tubes tied should all be discussed with your partner.
Throwing out leftovers
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Major purchases
Even if you're stocked like a Rockefeller, it's usually a good bet to run it by your significant other before making any big buys (cars, houses, boats, etc).
Adopting an animal or a child
As tempting as that puppy with the heart breaking little face may be (I know, so cute!), resist the temptation. Just because you're volunteering at a refugee camp while your sweetie is filming a movie and there's an orphan there that melts your heart, it's just not okay to bring home new family members without getting your partner's blessing first.
A tattoo
With their name on it. Enough said.
Wiping out the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn't mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
I'm a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person's life as well.
That compromise includes consulting your partner about decisions that will affect him or her. This in no way makes you weak or co-dependent. Discussing things with your partner before making a decision is just the smart thing to do.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Granted, a woman's body is her own, but there are two of you in this relationship, so the decisions you make about your body will affect your partner too. Starting or stopping birth control or choosing a permanent solution like having your tubes tied should all be discussed with your partner.
Throwing out leftovers
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Major purchases
Even if you're stocked like a Rockefeller, it's usually a good bet to run it by your significant other before making any big buys (cars, houses, boats, etc).
Adopting an animal or a child
As tempting as that puppy with the heart breaking little face may be (I know, so cute!), resist the temptation. Just because you're volunteering at a refugee camp while your sweetie is filming a movie and there's an orphan there that melts your heart, it's just not okay to bring home new family members without getting your partner's blessing first.
A tattoo
With their name on it. Enough said.
Wiping out the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn't mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
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